How to Lead YOU

How to Lead YOU

If you want to lead others well, you’ve got to start by leading you. Leading yourself to become a better leader and a better person requires humility, commitment, and self-awareness. Today, I’m focusing on the self-awareness piece.

None of us can see ourselves clearly. We need people outside of us who are willing to tell us the truth in love. We need to be radically honest with ourselves – Where are we weak? Where do we need to grow? If you can’t quickly name at least 3 weaknesses you’re working on right now, you’re missing out on your growth as a leader.

Here are some suggestions to enhance your self-awareness. Yes, sometimes the truth hurts. It’s never fun to be confronted with our character defects. But the truth beats self-deception. Only by seeing the truth can you change and become better!

Step 1: Ask trustworthy people what you could do better. Try friends, co-workers, bosses, your spouse—or all of the above. Don’t put them on the spot. Give them some advance notice so they have time to think about it, process it. Be careful how you word the question. Not, “Are there some things I could do better?” (yes or no question, makes it too easy to say no). Ask “What are some specific things I could do to make me a better leader?” Don’t settle for a “nothing—you’re great!” Press in until you get at least one constructive response.

Step 2: Thank them for their honesty. It’s hard to give honest feedback! Don’t bite their head off or get defensive. You are here to learn. Once you’ve demonstrated humility and self-control in your response, it’s time to take some time to process their feedback. Were you already aware of this weak spot? How do you think it might be present in other areas of your life? Once you’ve done some introspection, it’s time for step 3.

Step 3: Create a plan for change. Ask for accountability. Have your leadership coach check your progress at each meeting. Tell a friend to text you once a week to ask how you’re doing with your patience/attitude/communication, etc… Create a plan to improve, share it with at least one other person, and watch your leadership capabilities rise with each new improvement.

3 Steps to Jump-Start 2019

3 Steps to Jump-Start 2019

January is a chance to pause and start fresh. If you’re like me, you’re brimming with hopes and plans for the new year. More sleep, focusing on health, organization, time management…the options are endless – and exciting!

If you have your goals in mind and are ready to amplify your outcomes, try these three tweaks. Apply just one, or do all three for a real reset!

Step 1: Delete social media apps from your phone. It doesn’t have to be forever, but trust me, you can do it for just one month. When the impulse to check something or post something arises, replace it with a different behavior. Read a few pages of a good book. Pray. Do some push-ups. Go to bed. Endless options ensue!

Step 2: Take a month off TV. This is a tradition my husband Trevor and I started last year. January means no Netflix, no TV, no Hulu, no Amazon Prime. You can read more here about my experience last year, but one good outcome you’ll like have is more sleep. Without the temptation to stream “just one more episode,” you will probably go to bed earlier. A month where you’re finally getting enough sleep? Now that’s how to jumpstart the year! (You’ll probably also have more conversations, finish more books/podcasts, and try some new recipes, but the sleep alone makes this one worth it).

Step 3: Stop snoozing on week days. You’ve stopped staying up late scrolling through Instagram. You’re no longer binge watching The Great British Baking Show past bedtime. Now you’re ready for step 3: no more snoozing.

Commit to your alarm time and honor that commitment. Perhaps you want to get ready for the day without feeling rushed and stressed. Maybe you’d like to take time for a morning workout or coffee and devotional time. Whatever you do with the time, take charge of your morning instead of stumbling into it after one too many snoozes. Need help? Text a friend for accountability. Don’t pick the nicest, gentlest person you know. Ask someone who will hold you to it and check in with you (spouses can be great at this).

If you want to make an even bigger impact, invite your significant other to join you on your jumpstart.

Wishing you and yours the best of new years!

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